Ghost Conflict

Ghost Conflict (n.) - When your current argument isn't really your current argument but rather is a replaying of an old script from past conflicts in your childhood or past relationships in general. A ghost conflict plays out angry word for angry word, tone for tone, volume for volume, and posture for posture as the conflict you experienced in the past.

When triggered, your brain goes instinctively to what it knows, engages the script it has memorized, and the ghosts of the past emerge as actors on your conflict-laden stage.

The next argument or conflict you have, ask yourself, "Is this really about what is happening right now? or is what is happening right now tied to something much, much older?" 

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